I have been married (to the same woman) 43 years next July. I can't really recall when I wasn't married. She was my high-scool sweetheart.

Of course no marriage is perfect, and we had our ups and downs just like many others. I think the trick to a long and reasonably happy marriage is to never go to bed mad at your partner. whatever disagreements you may have had during the day should be resolved before then. Marriage is a partnership, men can not treat their wives as slaves and baby factories. The days of "keep her bear foot in the winter and pregnant in the summer" is no longer relevent, at least not where I come from.

too shy to talk to women in the wild, and the domesticated kind I have as colleagues are all married or engaged (sometimes to other colleagues).
And before I encountered such domesticated females it was simply too expensive to search them out, even had I dared to.

>Are you married or not ?
Yes.

>If yes then what did marriage change in your life, are the new found
>responsibilities burdening you or making you a better person ?
What didn't it change? :rolleyes:

Come on Mr. Jwenting, you can surely impress them with your knowledge of Java.. Maybe create a thread in Geek's Louge with subject "A cool Java Pro looking for a pro Java girl"...

So much we gathered from Mr. Iamthwee...

Change is certain, but total change ....(bah how am I to know..)

I said somthing similar to that to a friend once. You know what he said?

Since then I've found there's some truth in his advice :p . Don't get too drunk and try to pull though or it'll be worse than if you were sober :lol: .

Steven.

Not I. I said nothing about marriage. Lots of people these days have kids out of wedlock you know. Although I don't know of many married pole dancers who program in their spare time. But then narue is special like that.

The word pro can be mis-interpretated. However, joking aside, I suspect Jwenting is one of those types who doesn't like to venture outside his comfort zone. Dating, would take Jwenting into a territory where the logic of computer science no longer exists. He doesn't like that kind of uncertainly.

Unfortately, that's how lady love is. Sure, 9/10 times you will get cut you down. Fo'show. But I guess you're just waiting for that 1/10 chance to make it worth while.

Being hung like a donkey helps.

How much lager had your friend been drinking when he said that? :p

Married: I have been. The relationship was a mixed-experience of extremes that nose-dived into a trautmatic deluge precipitated by drug-abuse, dishonesty, and infidelity. One may look upon it as emotional treason. I certainly do.

Beyond this evil, I see marriage as highly sacred and as an ideal that can be cultivated with the best of harvests. This takes work, drive, giving, openess, submission, and truth amongst other countless, selfless acts. It takes willingness to even attempt to pursue these acts and then practice to elevate them to a peaceful and bountiful lifestyle that benefits both woman and man. This sacred relationship is ordained sacred but is sanctified by on-going improvement.

I see the Earth at times as venom-filled and vile-- but I have not given up on life.

I write programs with the best of intentions and my own brittle, mathematical theory, but the compiler still spits out errors at me, the code crashes, and the build itself dares me to catch its bugs. I have, though, not given up on the graces of C++, Ruby, or Python.

Women have burned me deep-- I have not yet forgone the strength of love and romance.

My first taste of marriage was infused with a poison and a bitter bruise, but I have not given up on the principal of joining monogomously forever with a woman and serving her in the light of God.

sharky_machine

Yes -- I get to hear that thing from a lot many elders out here..Looks like you really are ancient Mr. Dragon.
So now we know that she is also a pole dancer....

But what about you eh...
It really is a brave thing that after been through so much you still hold respect for this relationship...