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Is it within a Mod's power to purposely insult me via PM?
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Here are a series of messages I've been getting, it's partly my fault, but everytime I get a message via PM, it comes to my email.
I don't know if I'm allowed to complain here so here are the messages, and am I allowed to file a complaint?
Here's the whole incidence, the moderator quoted my own messages to which she responded so this is the incidence as up to now.
First messege (Responding to me flagging her):
Second message:
Third message:
Fourth Message:
I admit I played a part in angering her, but insults and personal attacks I feel are not necessary.
Is there anything that can be done, or can I just have my account deleted on this site in some way? I can't find a way to deactivate the email function.
I don't know if I'm allowed to complain here so here are the messages, and am I allowed to file a complaint?
Here's the whole incidence, the moderator quoted my own messages to which she responded so this is the incidence as up to now.
First messege (Responding to me flagging her):
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Originally Posted by Narue
You wouldn't have gotten the chance in that thread whether I had posted or not. Bumped threads are locked, without fail, and without question.••••Reported Post:
in Sorting a 2d array of strings in C++??••••Originally Posted by NarueDon't bump year old threads, it's rude.
>Narue, you're code is full of bugs.
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Words fail me. Don't *EVER* say this unless you can prove it. If you can't, you've stumbled upon the worst possible insult to a programmer.
>Lol, I tried running it and it displayed a lot of funny stuff.
Just because you run it and it doesn't work doesn't mean the code is buggy. It's more likely that you simply don't know what you're doing, and this "bug report" proves it. Don't ever comment on my code again.
Reason:
I may have insulted her without knowing it, but I could have given the error report if I had the chance. This post right before closing the thread was just rude.
Assigned Moderators: (moderators who were notified by e-mail)
big_k105, BountyX, Dave Sinkula, Narue, Paladine, Stack Overflow, vegaseat
By the way, reporting me to whine instead of contacting me privately with your complaint and offering your "error report" is incredibly childish.
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Originally Posted by Narue
If you say something that can easily be viewed as offensive, you should expect it to be taken that way. Your wording was attrocious and the smiley at the end was in very poor taste. I don't care how new you are; common sense has no prerequisite.••••And who are you to state what is childish and what isn't? New account, don't know you, registration rules says flag posts you think may be offensive...
You tell me what I'm supposed to think when I get such a response from someone who's a moderator with not only a sharp but attacking tone.
That's fine. It happens, and we're understanding about it when it's obviously an innocent mistake. That doesn't mean I won't inform you that bumping an ancient thread is rude.••••In either case, I was working on this same problem, and apparently the thread was old, I didn't check the year date when I did a search for it, rather than choosing to start a new thread
So, having no background in programming, you felt qualified to examine the code and determine that it was full of bugs? Perhaps I reacted too strongly, but you need to learn to assume that problems are your fault.••••having no background in not only programming or the culture, I checked the thread hoping to find a hint, I took your code, entered it in... the program not only started beeping but kept having errors within it.
Too many programmers have a problem and blame anything but themselves: my compiler is buggy, the code I didn't write is flawed, the file format is wrong, my OS sucks. We hear it so often, and so often the problem was actually a mistake on their part, not any of the things they tried to use as a scapegoat.
I'm not being condescending either, all good programmers to this. Blame yourself first. If the real problem is someone else's fault, inform them in a way that you'd like to be informed. Tell me, how would you feel if I took some code you posted a year ago (most of which wasn't written by you) that you tested and posted with confidence and said:
Hey Free Arsenal, your code is full of bugs.
Everyone learns these things eventually. But now you know, and I doubt you'll forget. Perhaps you should simply accept it as a learning experience and get on with your life instead of getting insulted and running away.••••You're dealing with someone here who doesn't know these things, hasn't been on the forums for more than 24 hours, and then come in on me in such a way, I got to tell you, I'm sorry.
I don't hold a grudge, but you'll have bad experiences no matter where you go. Well, except for the forums that force people to be nice, but you won't find any qualified helpers at those forums.••••I hope you don't have any hard feelings, in either case, I probably won't be on daniweb anymore, not just because I can't find information, but apparently also because it's obviously not a place for people without programming expeirence, or knowledge of programming culture for that matter.
Daniweb welcomes beginners, and we're more than willing to help, but don't expect to be treated with kid gloves just because you lack experience. This is the same on any forum that's worth your time. But some people just don't get it until they've had a few helpings of reality on multiple forums.
Well, yes. If I were you, I would assume that there was a misunderstanding and seek to resolve it. But you would rather report me, make no attempt to figure out why I reacted like I did, and quit the forum. I guess this is where we differ, and that's probably why I'm a moderator with thousands of helpful posts and you're running away.••••So you tell me, someone responds to me in that way and tone, and I read the forum rules and regulations before coming onto this forum, do you think I'm going to send you a message when I'm given such a sharp and derailing tone?
Bye.••••Bye.
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Originally Posted by Narue
It's a statement of fact.••••Originally Posted by Free ArsenalThis is a statement of your attitude••••... where we differ, and that's probably why I'm a moderator with thousands of helpful posts and you're running away.
I would only be assuming if I didn't know what other people thought. I know my posts are helpful because I've been told so by the countless people who have found them helpful. In this case, it's you who's making the assumption.••••you assume that your posts are helpful
It looks that way on my end. You have a little difficulty in your first posts, then threaten to stop coming to the forum because of it.••••and you assume that I'm just simply running away.
I don't know, you want to make a parting shot? You care what I think so you want to smooth things over before leaving? That doesn't change the fact that you're running away from Daniweb because you got flamed a bit. Or are you mistakenly assuming that I'll hold a grudge and repeatedly flame you?••••If I were simply running away, tell me why I've taken the time to respond to this.
I am better than you. I'm not going to think of you as an equal or a better until you prove that you are. Arrogance comes with the territory, and unlike most others, I don't work as hard to hide it.••••I'm still sensing that concept of "you're better than me" in every word you type.
If it bothers you, tough. I really don't care since I'm unlikely to see you again.
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Originally Posted by Narue
>Well, at least you provided me with your true colors.
I'm arrogant, as most programmers are. I don't sugar coat anything. I'm nice when people deserve it and not so nice when they don't.
Analyzing my personality for "true colors" isn't exactly rocket science. :rolleyes: But if you feel you've stumbled upon a profound secret, more power to you.
But since you're leaving (why do you keep logging in to take pot shots at me?), it doesn't really matter. You can take your superior personality elsewhere and leave me be. Rest assured that your absence will make about as much difference to us as your presence. That is to say, zero.
p.s. Once or twice a year, someone like you shows up. They decide I'm not nice enough and proceed to preach to me. Then they leave, never to return. You're nothing more than an amusing diversion, offering no value at all to the community.
How does it feel to be a worthless troll?
Is there anything that can be done, or can I just have my account deleted on this site in some way? I can't find a way to deactivate the email function.
I would personally say that it has nothing to do with being a Moderator. You insulted a programmer (intentionally or not, isn't particularly relevent.... if it wasn't intentional, you probably should have apologized). The only thing she did as a moderator, was lock the bumped post, which hardly constitutes an abuse of moderator power. Had she edited your post, or deleted it, well, ok, but she didn't. This is a person to person battle, and her status as a moderator has nothing to do with it.
Yes I have also recieved threatening messages from narue, I vote to ban her. :cheesy: and dani also for the lilac color scheme.
If that's possible?
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If that's possible?

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As a result of this and other incidences, Narue has decided to step down as moderator
Despite her "tell it like it is" attitude, she is very knowledgeable and has been a great asset to our community. With that said, I don't want this to go any further.
The lilac color scheme is not my fault. Quote boxes originally were in pale yellow and then pale grey but I received complaints that they were hard to see (especially on some laptops). I didn't want to introduce a new color (aside from a variant of yellow, grey, or purple) into the design and so light purple was the only one left. If you ask me, it reminds me of php.net
Despite her "tell it like it is" attitude, she is very knowledgeable and has been a great asset to our community. With that said, I don't want this to go any further.The lilac color scheme is not my fault. Quote boxes originally were in pale yellow and then pale grey but I received complaints that they were hard to see (especially on some laptops). I didn't want to introduce a new color (aside from a variant of yellow, grey, or purple) into the design and so light purple was the only one left. If you ask me, it reminds me of php.net
I was just joking. I think the color scheme is kinda cute.
In regards to the more serious matter, of narue's step down. I think it's a shame. Especially since she seems to be the only moderator contributing in the c/c++ forums. *sigh*...
What's happening?
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In regards to the more serious matter, of narue's step down. I think it's a shame. Especially since she seems to be the only moderator contributing in the c/c++ forums. *sigh*...
What's happening?
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Originally Posted by cscgal
As a result of this and other incidences, Narue has decided to step down as moderatorDespite her "tell it like it is" attitude, she is very knowledgeable and has been a great asset to our community. With that said, I don't want this to go any further.
After all she should know that responses like this is part of parcel with speaking what she thinks is write.. If she has confidence on what she did was right why should she step down? She is the only moderator in the C/C++ forum that takes time to give answers at present. Dave was here when I joined the forum but recently I have seen no sign of him. If Narue also goes what will happen?
Regarding this incident, she is not abusing her power as a moderator when closing an old thread. But I see a very serious flaw in this banning system. How on earth does a message regarding a ban directed at one of the moderators goes to himself/herself? Bans should be confidential. We don't know who adds reputation to us. So why can't you do the same for the reverse? In my opinion it should be the most confidential. You should redesign this notification system Dani. Let the other moderators handle flags regarding a fellow moderator. I think that it was this notification system that started this in the first place.
And after all, if the person on the receiving end has already decided to go, why should be bother about him? Losing Narue will make this forum lose 10000 more persons like him. I am not saying that people like them are not worth staying, but if he has already gone, there is nothing we can do about that. If he stayed he could have benefited from Narue's knowledge. If he decided to leave..too bad.
Summary.
1. NARUE MUST STAY
2. Redesign the flag notification system
3. I think there is one more point that I have made in my post, but I can't figure what it is.
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