I concur, the pages for AirPort are ambigious about what hardware supports what wifi hardware. I had to dig a little to find what I did.
No, you don't have to use Apple's AirPort Base Station stuff at all. I'd just go ahead and buy the AirPort (802.11b) cards from Apple, install them in your Macs. Supposedly they are rebranded Orinoco (sp?) WiFi cards, but I'm totally unsure of that, and don't want to steer you in the wrong direction. I can tell you, unequovocably, that AirPort and AirPort Extreme cards work just fine with 3rd party wifi acess points/wifi routers. I have a NetGear WGR614v3 (It's a mixed 802.11b & 802.11g) at home that does a pretty good job doing the wifi router thing for my APExtreme equipped PowerBook.