I'm not quite sure what to say to this, and I don't want to put my foot in my mouth, so I won't make any general observations on the situation here.

I will say that you could probably figure out what is loaded in your PC, but it sounds like he knows his stuff, so nothing you do will last, he'll come up with some other way to monitor you. Your best bet would be a second completely password protected/encrypted machine like some of the Laptops out there, and don't give him the password. (But I'm sure that won't go over real big with him).

Maybe some of the others here will have more to say on this issue, I'd be curious to know what everyone else thinks of all this.

I am not going to advise as to the social political situation this is. Yes I am. This
is a big steamy pile of over-ripe kimchi dookie. Humans cant avoid temptation
and have frail little minds that revolve around self-preservation and faith.
The he/she finger pointing crap is so second grade. If you want to know what's
running on your rig you can look at existing processes and go from
there. Trust is something you must work at. He could be watching this right now
via SMS or BO2K or the like... no intercept required, just screen capture and
watch from afar.

If you wanna mess with him just hit some singles chats and all will fall apart very
nicely as it is destined. Therapy along with massive amounts of medications
should have you both well on your way in no time.

I cant believe folks actually fight over this crap.

[man am i in a good mood or what? beer and cake for breakfast ne1?]

Interesting domestic version of cat and mouse if i do say so myself Idaho..

Whilst I would certainly not use the type of terminology in the previous post, i'd certainly have to agree with the basic thrust of it.

When a relationship has broken down to the extent that husband and/or wife are playing 'spy games' and using surveillance techniques on each other, then no amount of technological repsonses will be of any worthwhile assistance. You have a problem and it's not a computer-related one. Please seek help!


I'd encourage you to read this recent article of mine, which addresses a different domestic issue related to parent and child. Perhaps by looking at the problem of someone else you might be able to get a glimpse of what is really confronting yourself. Your situation begs for counselling, not for computer assistance.

Edit: Please note. That is a personal response, not any 'official' stance of DaniWeb, and perhaps Dani would be rather shocked to see me express it. But in all sincerity I could not bring my self to offer a different viewpoint. Displaying such a lack of trust in one's partner is horrible!

ummm.. eh yeah.. eh :o what he said

*sheesh*

I would go along with the jest of the previous posts and recommend some
marital counseling. Good luck -- however it turns out.

I can assure you that my comments were in no way whatsoever a 'jest'.

They were sincere.

My bad, sorry. "Jest" was the wrong word to use, though my mind is blank as to what word I had intended; the best I can come up with is "jest" should have been more along the lines of "essence." I read your article Terry and thought it was well written and appropriate to this situation.

I think he meant *gist.*

YES! That's it! Exactly! Thanks Crunchie, glad someone can read my mind since I can't always seem to. I have a photographic memory, I just keep losing the film, lol.