what partition should i pick

Hmm, well there seems to be something of a hardware or software-hardware conflict.

I would personally use Partition Magic for Format the drive entirely clean, rather than use XP to format, and then try to re-install. But that would depend on you having Partition Magic. Which I would assume you do not have.

I can't recall a free ware program for formating a hard drive. Anyone?

Sorry I can't help more, I will look into it for you.

I would do the full NTFS format , not quick format....

Usually, a quick format (erase) is perfectly fine. However, if you've been having problems trying to get Windows to install properly, perhaps there are bad blocks on the drive, etc. In such a case a full format might be wise. Are you sure you're installing on a large enough partition?

Thanks ya'll for all your help