[Hi Gunnarh,
I had the same problem as you a few months ago. Your problem is easy to resolve. I know that my solution is really odd but this is only way. All notebooks have the same problem: contacts between memory banks and memory modules. Here's what you need to do: place your memory module in memory slot B and stick some piece of paper to make memory module closer to the motherboard, take cover on and close it with screews. I know that this is really stupid solution but this was working in my case (and not only in my case) and it will work.
Just let me know did you succeed!
Of course I tried all sorts of means, including increasing the contact pressure the way you did it - but no matter how I tried I was unsuccessful. Thus I went to the workshop to have the sockets resoldered... I really appreciate your comment and I hope that it works for a long time for you. The problem with your remedy is that you put more pressure on the socket on the connection between the memory socket and the motherboard, exactly the connection that I have resoldered, and that way you might have creep failures in one or more connection after some time. Is yours a T8100?
This is my hypothesis about the common memory errors in T8XXX:
It all happened in the era when you built your motherboard and accessories into a light plastic structure to make it a laptop. This plastic structure has a rigidity too few magnitudes more than the motherboard. This led to the consequence that the laptop could bend and flex be compressed etc. by minimal forces such as when you carry it in a flexible laptop bag or worse in your overfilled briefcase. After some thousands deformation movements (that should really have been performed in a test rig when it was developed) minor cracks would be generated here and there on the mothjerboard - but even worse for the memory socket you get stress concentrations in the soldered connections. If one of them breaks you have arrived at memory outage like the one I have described.
In the next generation of the computers referred to you built in a magnesium chassis that increased the stiffness by many magnitudes and the problem had gone. I would not be happy to hear that T9XXX have the same problem as we T8XXX owners have experienced, do you??
The T8100 was a top of the line computer in 1999 costing corresponding to round US$5500. It was really good but a stiffer structure round the electronic components would have helped it to a longer useful life.