Valentine's Day

[mattyd]

How will you be spending Valentine's Day?

[Ancient Dragon]

There are too many holidays and this one we can do without. One doesn't need a holiday to show how much you love someone.

[mattyd]

^ "One doesn't need a holiday to show how much you love someone."

Yes, so very true. (I still really like this Holiday-- it's most of the other major ones I could live without ;) ) Romance seems to have been deleted from our culture (if it was ever here indeed at all :confused:) Valentine's Day, well, gives many the chance to express something they may not other days. I try to give to my love as if everyday was "Valentine's Day"-- not the superficial: gifts, chocolate, but love, care, and respect. Perhaps we should have another holiday just for that. :eek::lol:

[John A]

<double-checks calendar>

Hey, I didn't even know Valentine's day was a holiday! Tells you how much I like the holiday (which is not very much at all). ;)

[bjbarnett]

Ill be spending it with my wife just like she told me to do ;)

[jwenting]

It's just another overcommercialised thing.
20 years ago it was a time when people sent anonymous cards and gifts to secret loves, now it's a time when men are supposed to flatter their wifes and girlfriends with expensive gifts to show that they do indeed love them.

It's therefore effectively degraded those wifes and girlfriends into paid prostitutes by putting a monetary value on love itself.

[mattyd]

It's therefore effectively degraded those wifes and girlfriends into paid prostitutes by putting a monetary value on love itself.

I agree with this to an extent, but do not blame such prostitution on Valentine's Day as this happens 365-days a year in many Western marriages. A box of chocolates or a boquet hardly makes a difference when many women (in the States, for example) willingly submit themselves to a man who they have no love for except he makes "a great living!!". :evil: That is prostitution. Wenches. But, then again, look at the wonderful men available...

Regards,
Matty D

[jwenting]

a box of candy no longer does it it seems... These days it must be a weekend in Paris at the very least, probably with a diamond ring to go with it.
If a man doesn't spend that much on his woman come Valentine's day she thinks he doesn't love her enough...

[mattyd]

a box of candy no longer does it it seems... These days it must be a weekend in Paris at the very least, probably with a diamond ring to go with it.

:lol: LOL

[cecil.vera]

with my special someone, of course ;)

[mattyd]

with my special someone, of course ;)

Nice :)

[John A]

It seems like the vast majority (87% at the moment) dislike or can live without this holiday. Funny, isn't it?

[mattyd]

It seems like the vast majority (87% at the moment) dislike or can live without this holiday. Funny, isn't it?

These are the stats I expected. I'm not sure what these statistics indicate but, I guess, I see what they do not indicate. ;):-|

Regards,
Matty

[jbennet]

what day is valentines day again? - the 14th or 16th?

my birthday is the 15th

[Infarction]

It seems like the vast majority (87% at the moment) dislike or can live without this holiday. Funny, isn't it?

I think it's become another compulsive commercialized scam. For one, it shouldn't take a holiday to tell someone you love them, nor should it take expensive gifts on said holiday. Two, in many places around the world, Valentine's Day really is nothing more than something advertized by companies interested in making a larger profit; there's no cultural background for it, but people just go along with it to spend money. Three, think of the mental repercussions (traumatic perhaps) on all those poor single guys out there... maybe a class-action lawsuit is in order... :twisted:

what day is valentines day again? - the 14th or 16th

my birthday is the 15th

It's the 14th, the day after my sister's b-day. :p

[jbennet]

yay 17 soon then!

[mattyd]

I do not actually really believe that most people feel that Valentine's Day is a false-hearted day, a commecrialized event only. Everything practically is commercialized these days so of course this will be to, correct? The real culprit for this case and topic of holidays to avoid is Christmas; I am a Christian and I am bloody disgusted by the American Christmas, honestly.

Valentine's Day gives people the chance to express their love if only for one day and it provides the memory and hopes for love if one is single at the time. This is sad in a way, I know, as love is spread everday for sure, but many people do not feel this way nor know how to exactly do this. Men, especially, are not very romantic as far as I can tell. But I am and it is a lovely holiday for those who dig it. Plus, pink is my favorite color so this Holiday makes me happy because of that and because I have a lovely woman to share this day with. Then again, everyday is Valentine's Day for us.

I like this holiday so much I would vote for it TWICE as the best holiday ever if the thread poll would allow me to.

Thanks for all your reply, guys :)
Matty D

[~s.o.s~]

From the poll 90% of the people who have voted think that Valentine day sucks big time....

[Infarction]

I do not actually really believe that most people feel that Valentine's Day is a false-hearted day, a commecrialized event only. Everything practically is commercialized these days so of course this will be to, correct? The real culprit for this case and topic of holidays to avoid is Christmas; I am a Christian and I am bloody disgusted by the American Christmas, honestly.

Definitely agree re: Christmas.

Valentine's Day gives people the chance to express their love if only for one day and it provides the memory and hopes for love if one is single at the time. This is sad in a way, I know, as love is spread everday for sure, but many people do not feel this way nor know how to exactly do this. Men, especially, are not very romantic as far as I can tell. But I am and it is a lovely holiday for those who dig it. Plus, pink is my favorite color so this Holiday makes me happy because of that and because I have a lovely woman to share this day with. Then again, everyday is Valentine's Day for us.

The last sentence is great. I wish it was like that for everyone. But I do think that the whole roses+chocolate+dinner+jewelry is a little excessive. Not that they're bad by any means, but the holiday shouldn't be about those things.

[mattyd]

Definitely agree re: Christmas.

The last sentence is great. I wish it was like that for everyone. But I do think that the whole roses+chocolate+dinner+jewelry is a little excessive. Not that they're bad by any means, but the holiday shouldn't be about those things.

I agree with everything you say and I like how you say it. I like the holiday but not the pre-packaged crap pawned by every retail store in the nation. Believe me, my girlfriend is not the kind of girl that would swoon over a cheap box of chocolates or tacky jewelry no matter the price. She is an artist and her taste ranges from the beautiful and unique to the eccentic ; she does not expect anything on this day but if I get her anything it should probably be:

• Retro\ vintage
• something I make
• something Japanese

Well, this year I got her something from the Sanrio store in Manhattan-- we are both Japan-obsessed and collect Hello Kitty\Sanrio objects so I know she will love it. Normally, I just make her stuffed animals from cloth, hand-sewn. We have a huge collection of these (she makes them for me also).

I could rant and criticize so much about American\Western ideals (or lack thereof) concerning romance and love-- but I will not even start here. All I can say... it is sad for both women and men. Literally sad. Overpriced diamonds and American garbage chocolate does not really cut it-- this is not love. Buying her chocolate? At least buy her some from Germany or anywhere in Northern Europe:!:

Thanx for your reply, Infarction ;)

Kind Regards,
Matty

[jbennet]

same. christmas in britain is getting like it is in the usa

[mattyd]

same. christmas in britain is getting like it is in the usa

Christmas :-|. Yeah, I wonder if it can become any more trite. Honestly, I try to enjoy Christmas as I have quaint and sentimental memories of it from childhood (1970's), but things were different back then I think. Usually a week or two before Christmas I become depressed by it and more negative in general. Don't know why exactly.

This past year I went to dinner with family-- everyone looked absolutely thrilled about the holiday :lol: Joking. Christmas was not mentioned once! :cheesy: This year was a bit different due to circumstances; my girl's brother just came back from Army Airborne training for holiday leave and will be shipping out to Iraq soon for ground duty in Baghdad. Her family was very somber. It was nice to be with her family and be included, though. I suppose that is what it is about.

On Christmas day what did I do? Came to Daniweb, coded some, played video games. No different than any other day. I think many, many folks in America are realizing the joke Christmas has become (but they cannot seem to break away from the sappy traditions).

Regards,
Matty

[jbennet]

This year was a bit different due to circumstances; my girl's brother just came back from Army Airborne training for holiday leave and will be shipping out to Iraq soon for ground duty in Baghdad. Her family was very somber. It was nice to be with her family and be included, though. I suppose that is what it is about.

a family member of mine has recently returned from basra with the air force i know your position

[FireSBurnsmuP]

*sigh* well, I don't have a good track record with V-day (sounds like D-day). Most of my life I have had no reason to celebrate the dang holiday, and the one time I actually do have a girlfriend on v-day, she spends the entire day patronizing me, which in turn leads to me calling her a bitch, and I break it off with her after 8 months because she can't even stand to be around me. She would rather have watched television than do ANYTHING with me.

I could live without this one easily. It's just a depressing day for me; it always has been.

[jessimaca]

Ill be spending it with my wife just like she told me to do ;)

hehe, just like a guy! I have never been a huge fan of the day but this year I am with a guy who isn't very romantic, at least not in the conventional way. He does really sweet things for me, but prob not things most would consider 'romantic' so it will be interesting to see how he will react to Valentines. I am not into material things so even a back rub or a lil makeout session would make me happy :)

[RwCC]

I have never liked Valentines Day. Always horrible if you are single and never get a card!

However, my good lady has kindly granted me a pardon for this year. She said I don't have to get her anything (and no there isn't any female reverse psychology here) as she has just moved home and doesn't know her address. :) Oh and I can't hand deliver it because I moved many, many miles away for work ;)

I remember a friend of mine mentioned how silly VD traditions are. He told me that he would never go for the standard gifts of chocolate and flowers. Why? Because chocolate makes you fat, and flowers die... how does that show love!

However some of you may have heard of a special day for us men in March. And the girlfriend has promised to honour great day so long as I am nice to her this weekend... which I always am anyway, so win-win!

Just remember lads: Nothing says I love you like a 2GB USB pen drive! :cool:

[anupam_smart]

Well... I am a single & not having a girlfriend either...
So,........
Gonna spend it at the college with friends...
PARTY.........????????Yupppieeeeeeeeee.....?(just jokin')

[WolfPack]

• something Japanese

Why Japanese?

[mattyd]

Why Japanese?

She\ We love almost anything Japanese.

Regards,
Matty

[jbennet]

ive never hada a valentine or a card :(