Sorry Christina, but I don't see that " what?" is going to get you the kind of
communication response I was refering to. In fact it didn't.
This is just a thought.
By the way, that's the reason the guy answer the way he/she answer. Trying to defend him/herself:
Using other words: "If you do not understand me that makes it easy until later when you are parents and you encounter the same challengers",