Do not strive for physical joy, discarding the more permanent joy of inner calm and contentment. Nothing is more profitable than contentment. It is a treasure richer than the three worlds. A contented person can experience indescribable divine glory. Contentment is the result of the acquisition of peace of mind, joy and discrimination. As a result, you can attain Sakshathkara (vision of the Lord) directly. To acquire these benefits, Namasmarana (remembrance of the Lord’s Name) and Dhyana (meditation) are the only means. They alone can give you that power.
Sir Lancelot: We were in the nick of time. You were in great peril.
Sir Galahad: I don't think I was.
Sir Lancelot: Yes, you were. You were in terrible peril.
Sir Galahad: Look, let me go back in there and face the peril.
Sir Lancelot: No, it's too perilous.
Sir Galahad: Look, it's my duty as a knight to sample as much peril as I can.
Sir Lancelot: No, we've got to find the Holy Grail. Come on.
Sir Galahad: Oh, let me have just a little bit of peril?
Sir Lancelot: No. It's unhealthy.
Sir Galahad: I bet you're gay.
Sir Lancelot: Am not.
You can choose to be happy or sad and whichever you choose that is what you get. No one is really responsible to make someone else happy, no matter what most people have been taught and accept as true.