Uneal; this worked. I'm hoping I'm not jumping the gun but I disabled, powered down computer, pulled power cord, restarted and now it is recoginizing my connection and I'm able to get online. I also have IPv6 disabled and have changed my power management settings.
Thank you!
running the command "netsh interface tcp set global autotuninglevel=disabled
" seems to have fixed my issue, bit early to be sure.if you try it, you can always change back with the command
"netsh interface tcp set global autotuninglevel=normal"googling vista autotuning brings up many other issues with this feature, so maybe worth turning off anyway.