C# has a media player control that you can just drag onto your form http://msdn.microsoft.com/en-us/library/dd564582(v=VS.85).aspx
You don't need to be able to see it, you can just use it to play media files and make your own set of controls to control the media player control.
ok i followed it but i actually want to create everything on my own, i dont want it to look like windows. is there any other link that you can provide for me to start reading? thanks, and sorry for asking too much.