MxDev: I guess English isn't your first language? The verb "demand" is the wrong word to use in this situation, and appears to be very rude. Eg, a master would "demand" something from his servant.
"manners" are the rules of good/polite behaviour.
If you said "can someone please tell me the correct order..." that would be OK.
To answer your question, I think you should start with OO A&D, which will include learning UML because that's the language of OO analysis & design. Then move on to a few Design Patterns. Don't attempt to learn a whole book-full of patterns; these are things you look up when you need them