Wife Swapping Geeks

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They say it is a ‘man thing’ this fantasy about swapping their wife or partner for someone new. Unfunny jokes about trading up to a newer model abound, some even indulge in a swinging lifestyle. But now it seems that some 13% of men in the UK, according to new research conducted by pollsters , would gladly swap their other half for the latest gadget.

Personally I do not find this a surprising statistic, given the poor state of many relationships and the huge attraction of gadgets such as the iPhone or PS3. Oh, and the fact that so many men are shallow and self-obsessed of course. What I do find surprising is that only 6% of women would do likewise, especially when you balance the attractive gadgets against us unattractive men.
reckons that some 77% of women would prefer a new plasma TV to a diamond solitaire necklace, and 86% would take a new digital video camera over a new pair of designer shoes (obviously they never consulted my Jimmy Choo obsessed wife for her opinion on this.)

Not only is there a gender gap when it comes to gadget love, but a generation one as well. The survey reveals that the most dangerous men to get involved with, from a ‘you love your iPod more than me’ perspective, are those aged between 16 and 24 years of age as some 17% said they would swap their partner for some gadget action (compared to 2% of 55-64 year olds.)

So should you be taking this story seriously? Heck no, not least because it was commissioned by , a UK cellphone based price comparison search service that naturally has some interest in you being interested in buying gadgets. But there is a serious side to all this, at a time when according to the the sales of consumer electronics to retailers in the US is predicted to grow by 6% over 2006 figures to a whopping great $155 billion this year. Add to that the growing concern amongst psychologists that ’ can be harmful to health causing sleeping disorders and headaches, euphoria during the purchase phase and depression if gadget access is withdrawn (I’d be depressed if you took my Sansa or PSP away matey.)

So, the $64,000 question: would I swap my wife for a gadget? Heck no, although there are occasions when I’d gladly trade my senile pet cat for a robot dog. Any takers?

Dani AI

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This thread mixes a bit of fun with a real social question: what happens when enthusiasm for gadgets bumps up against relationship expectations. kicked things off with the eye‑catching survey, and rightly flags that a tossed‑off poll (especially one that leans on younger respondents) tells more about attitudes than about real behaviour. Short, hypothetical questions and sponsor framing can produce splashy headlines — they’re useful for conversation, not for diagnosing a partnership.

Practical fixes work better than moralising. Concrete steps that reduce tech‑related tension include agreed device‑free times (meals, one evening a week), a shared purchase plan or a cap on impulse buys, and involving the partner before a big spend so it feels joint rather than secret. Make the tech a shared hobby: teach each other the basics, swap tastes, or set up a “try before you buy” rule. Those ideas echo ’s note about partners learning gadgets, and the cosy point made about real, everyday contributions being what matters.

On the more adult angle raised by and , consensual non‑monogamy or partner‑swapping is a distinct subject. It demands clear, repeated consent; explicit boundaries; agreed health and safety practices; and honest emotional check‑ins. Online meeting services can help some people, but they also require caution around privacy, expectations, and screening.

Bottom line: the headline is entertaining, but the useful takeaway is about balance. Tech can add pleasure or friction. Keeping the relationship healthy usually comes down to simple agreements, shared priorities, and respect — plus remembering that small, dependable acts (like making a sandwich or listening) often trump the latest toy.

pty 882 Posting Pro

iPhone or gf? iPhone or gf? hmmmmmmmmmmm.. its a tough one.

In the end though I'd have to go with my gf because she is the bringer of sandwiches.

Dani 5,664 The Queen of DaniWeb Administrator Featured Poster

It's completely ridiculous to base this study on 16 year olds - or anyone in the teenage age range for that matter. How many 16 year old guys know what love is or are dating the people they end up marrying for that matter? The study just makes no sense.

happygeek 2,411 Most Valuable Poster Team Colleague Featured Poster

That's why only 2% of the 55-64 year olds and 3% of the 65 years plus folk surveyed would swap their partners for tech booty.

The survey covered all age groups, perhaps unsurprisingly for the reasons you have cited it was the 16 to 24 year olds that were most keen on the swapping idea.

Mushy-pea 36 What, you can change this tag?

It reminds me of that Indecent Proposal film, where a billionaire offers another man $1 million to "borrow" his wife for a night. I know, objectifying women is bad :rolleyes: . Still, I just can't see someone indecently proposing a PS3 for someones wife. Sounds like a recipe for getting a slap :lol: .

Steven.

PirateTUX 6 Junior Poster

Perhaps I am one of the fortunate ones... my fiancee is good enough to allow me my toys. She just wants to make sure she knows how to use them, too.

:cheesy:

Dani 5,664 The Queen of DaniWeb Administrator Featured Poster

Oh I misunderstood ... I thought only 16 to 24 year olds were surveyed.

Chaky 191 Posting Virtuoso

There should be a survey on geeks and geekettes that have no social life, on whether they want to swap thier gadgets for the life "normal" ppl live.

stargazinc 0 Newbie Poster

is the primary way my husband and I meet likeminded "friends with benefits." There's no uncomfortable wondering if you ought to approach someone, you already know upfront when you meet them, and it is definitely worth the extra cost of becoming silver/gold imo, so you can exchange notes or pics before meeting and make sure its a good fit.

My hubby is str8 and I am bi and we have had no problem finding partners on online4love.com. We've had fun sex with lots of single men, single women and full swap couples that we met on O4L. And yes, I'm real, and no, I don't work for O4L or think they're perfect (they can be pricey and they goober up email sometimes,) but I think they're the best thing going by far for meeting other people who just want to have sex without strings!

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