The New Way to Break Up: Changing Facebook Relationship Status

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Prince Harry is now single.

The is reporting that Britain's News of the World tabloid says Chelsy Davy, who has been dating the heir to the British throne for five years, announced the end of her relationship with him by changing her status on Facebook to: "Relationship: Not in One."

Harsh.

More than one person on Facebook has announced a new relationship, or the change in status of a relationship, to friends by specifying that one is in a relationship with so-and-so, or that one is married (always fun when someone who's actually been married for years finally sets that up on Facebook). Conversely, more than one person has been surprised when they downgrade their relationship and suddenly are treated to an outpouring of sympathy from their friends.

(Facebook also has two other categories -- "in an open relationship," though it doesn't allow people to set up multiple relationships," and my favorite, "It's complicated.")

But while setting up a relationship with someone else on Facebook, or even noting that one is now engaged or married, requires confirmation by the other person, ending a relationship -- which Facebook calls "canceling" a relationship -- does not, and it's likely that as time goes on, more and more people are going to find out their relationship is over through their Facebook status.

Thing is, some people don't take that sort of news well. Also in England, a man ended up killing his estranged wife when she changed her Facebook status to "single." Edward Richardson, 41, of Mayfield Road, Biddulph, was found guilty of stabbing 26-year-old hairdresser Sarah Richardson to death last May.

Fiona Cortese, of the Crown Prosecution Service, reportedly said: "Richardson became enraged when Sarah changed her marital status on Facebook to single and decided to go and see her as she was not responding to his messages."

Perhaps Chelsy Davy should have been more careful.

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As pointed out, relationship-status edits on social networks can be sudden, public and sometimes dangerous. Below is a short, practical update (as of December 2025) showing how to reduce surprise announcements, control who sees relationship info on Facebook, and what to do if an update triggers harassment.

To hide or limit relationship visibility: open your profile → About → Family & Relationships, then use the privacy selector next to Relationship and set it to the audience you prefer (for maximum privacy choose Only me). Facebook requires a confirmation if you add someone as your partner, and visibility of any “In a relationship” update depends on your audience; changing to Single/Divorced or removing the field does not create the same kind of Feed/timeline story. (facebook.com)

Avoid surprises from tags and other people’s posts: turn on review for posts you’re tagged in, enable tag review for tags added to your posts, use the audience selector and “View As” to audit how your profile appears to others, and consider using Limit Past Posts if you want a quick privacy sweep. For low-drama situations, skip publishing relationship life events and tell key people directly before changing a public profile field. (facebook.com)

If a status change leads to unwanted contact or threats: block or restrict the person, block messages if necessary, and use Facebook’s Report tools to flag harassment or impersonation. Document everything (screenshots with timestamps/URLs, exported account data, message headers) and store copies off-device. If safety is at risk, contact local police and/or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233; text START to 88788; chat at their site) for immediate help and referral. For step-by-step documentation and tech-abuse guidance see survivor/legal resource pages. (facebook.com)

Platform UI and defaults change frequently; review Facebook’s Help Center before making major profile edits so the current controls behave as expected. (facebook.com)

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