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Would you write on your ex's facebook wall to wish them happy valentines day? What do you think about communicating via social media to an ex and leaving all the hurt and past behind?

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This thread captures the obvious split: describes a successful rekindling via Facebook, while , and warn that a public Valentines message can reopen wounds or make someone uncomfortable. Social networks amplify context — a short wall post is visible to mutual friends, partners, and sometimes employers — so it changes the intent and the impact of the message.

A simple rule of thumb: decide your motive first. If the goal is private reconnection or genuine closure, prefer a direct message or an offline conversation. If the goal is attention, to perform for others, or to test waters on a loaded day like Valentines, do not use a public wall. If there was abuse, stalking, or a legal no-contact order, do not reach out at all; respect safety and boundaries.

A quick checklist to apply before posting:

  • Pause and ask why you want to send the message. Wait 24 hours if emotions are high.
  • Check context: are they single, in a relationship, or in a "not talking" phase? A public post can embarrass them.
  • Pick the channel: private message for personal notes, wall post only for neutral, consensual public interactions.
  • Keep tone short and neutral. Avoid romantic lines, gifts, or anything that creates pressure or expectations.
  • Be prepared for no reply or a negative reply. Accept it and do not escalate.

If reconnection is the real aim, open with a brief, private message that makes space for a clear yes/no response. Public Valentines greetings to an ex can sometimes work, as notes, but they are the exception — not the safe default.

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Would you write on your ex's facebook wall to wish them happy valentines day? What do you think about communicating via social media to an ex and leaving all the hurt and past behind?

Facebook is an amazing vessel for rekindling lost friendships, especially romantic ones. After a long absense, my soulmate, my sweetheart recently came back to me in this exact way. For me, Facebook is the medium that makes this the best Valentine's Day ever.

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I may not... it also depends. If it has been long and if we are still in the not talking phase then probably shouldn't leave her msg for Valentine's Day. I think its just going to make her angry and uncomfortable on a day that is meant to be a joyous time for couples.

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Thanks for the very interesting insights on social media and love. It depends but with so many eyes monitoring status and wall updates, I may prefer not to post happy v-day messages to any ex, to avoid opening a can of worms.

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... prefer not to post happy v-day messages to any ex, to avoid opening a can of worms.

That's true but worms always make for good bait!

Member Avatar for misodiet

That's true but worms always make for good bait!

I wouldnt write to my ex, simple as that. I think it might be rude.

Member Avatar for marissa jasmine

i think you can write in your'e status ....
it's very useful i think
Now communicatin with social bookmarking is very easy and simple...You have add many friend

Thanks

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