does anyone knwo of any good online services that will allow me to view my email stored on my exchange server at a static IP address away from my network with an internet connection ?

sorry what i mean is how do i open up a port on the server to allow me to access the email. ive only just started to realise what has to be done from googling. i believe i have to setup a port forward on my router but i have no idea how to setup my server to notice this ?

Have you looked at using outlook web access? you need to have iis running on the server