Hi. I'm concerned an ex has installed spy software on my computer (and maybe iPhone, but that's for another thread). I've spent days reading about it and I'm not really any closer to figuring out if this is the case, and if so how to uninstall it.

Any help would be much appreciated!

This sort of plea is not unusual. That is I read it across forums so I take it you either posted widely and didn't like the answer or just didn't find them.

Anyhow, you can not be a passive user of this technology today. You must be able to get your stuff on backups (more than one, because stuff fails) and then if you suspect an intruder be ready to factory reset anything suspect.

Almost all spy software will not survive that.