Is there a program for mac that i can use to connect to my mysql Database instead of opening Fire fox and going in and logging in??

You can certainly download and build the source for the mysql client, or install it directly (not sure about the Mac), but that is only a command-line interface. In any case, you need to log in, although you can script that easily enough, since the mysql client UI supports the --user=username and --password=pswd options.